They may be so sensitive that they suffer severe anxiety at the thought of saying or doing the wrong thing or not pleasing the people they care the most for.Some are people pleasers who are so concerned about being liked that they avoid social situations unless certain of acceptance or may give and give and give until they have nothing left to give.An example, Justin did EVERYTHING his wife requested of him.He was fearful she would find fault with him so he was at her disposal and in his mind, it was “her way or the highway.
This is especially true if you are teased, even in a good-natured way, about your avoidance of social situations.
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Avoidant personality disorder is characterized by feelings of extreme social inhibition, inadequacy, and sensitivity to negative criticism and rejection.
An example, Kathy lives with her husband in a retirement community. Kathy criticizes these women, says she “has better things to do with her time.” What Kathy does with her time is sit and watch soap operas, clean house and look down on women she wishes she could be more like. He goes to his office, closes his door and works on whatever assignment he has for the day.
The women in the community gather to play cards and various other activities. To admit that though, Kathy would have to admit to being fearful and that isn’t somewhere she wants to go. Avoids Work Activities: This person skates by at work to keep from interacting with others. He could care less if he gets a raise or a promotion as long as he doesn’t have to interact with others or take a chance at failing. He doesn’t stand around the water cooler in the mornings talking with other employees.