Most non-sociopathic men aren’t out to deliberately hurt women.
And hey, maybe I was just flattering myself and they weren’t that into me either.
It’s more accurate to attribute this kind of behavior to cluelessness rather than malice, with also makes it easier on you.
In the meantime, it still sucks to be on the receiving end.
But somehow, for some bizarre, primal reason, once they started chasing me I just couldn’t be interested anymore.
Keep in mind that there’s also a positive motive here.