In this case, society would not be right to expect a professor abide by this particular proposed restriction.The protection gained is minimal to non-existent, and individual personal burden inflicted is [email protected] - I think it's relevant, as it shows there's a potential less-formal link between the two.ie there could be more to the relationship than strict "Professor-Student" ties. I don't see a moral issue (IF the power unbalance is now gone - @vadim123's answer below is good), but thought I'd relate this: in my old school, a male teacher had a fling with a female student while she was still a student, and it was frowned upon but nothing more.But that doesn't mean it would be unethical for me to date her, which is what you implied in your answer. Would it be a sensible expectation that a college professor should be required to seek a mate from among the less educated, or from a remote town?When I signed up to be a college professor, I never agreed to limit my long-term life options in such a way.I believe they started dating before she graduated, and got married a few years afterwards.I don't see any sign that this was frowned upon from other department professors.
There are other inaccuracies in your answer, but this one is simply nonsense.no, and even if she didn't break my heart it would be unethical for me to write her a LOR after dating her. The very notion that I must temporarily restrain myself from choosing such a relationship with the people whom I actively have direct authority over... The idea that anyone is permanently blacklisted from being a potential candidate, just because I have ever encountered that person in a class which I taught, is way too unfairly exclusionary. I remember a college class which was required for all students in the college.So long as the professor-student relationship continues to exist, a potential power imbalance exists, and an ethical problem arises.Whether your colleagues consider this a serious ethical problem is addressed by Pete Clark's answer.So in effect you're saying that even if it's considered unethical by "society" then you're entitled to go ahead anyway, because you believe that to be an unreasonable conclusion.While true so far as personal ethics are concerned, this outlook on life is liable to get you arrested when your sense of morals and/or ethics is at odds with that of your society.