Before smartphones, we didn’t need to hear from our romantic interest every day, multiple times a day.
In many ways, it’s still too novel to get a clear sense of.
Here are my suggestions for texting during the dating phase: • Don’t use text or e-mail as a replacement for phone calls. • Never e-mail or text when you’re impaired: angry, sad, or otherwise emotional, or under the influence of any substance.
• Never e-mail or text when you’ve just ended an emotional phone conversation. • If you wouldn’t deliver your message in person, then don’t send it via text or e-mail.
I realize today’s women are not exactly traditional, and many of them do make the first contact.
I also know men now often give women their card and say “call me” instead of asking for their number. Men, unless you want a masculine energy woman who will always take the lead, be the man by taking the traditional lead in communication. • Just because you can send a message immediately doesn’t mean you deserve an immediate response.
• Anything that will potentially alter your relationship needs to be done in person or at least speaking on the phone. The problem with any written communication is that its context can be misconstrued. Your relationship is too important to leave up to chance.
If you begin a relationship by playing games of any kind, you will ultimately lose.If he takes you out you can thank him verbally at the end of the date.There is no need to thank him again with a text the next day—that’s his role.He was confused as to whether she liked him or not. “No,” he said, “I was waiting to hear from her first.” “She’s waiting to hear from you,” I said.“You’re the guy.” He had no idea that he should make the first contact.