Start Off Casual Take your time to feel the person out.
Go on a number of coffee or lunch dates and get to know the person.
Focus on the conversation and see if you can understand their lifestyle.
Find ways in which you can relate to each other and make a connection.
Just understand that most guys aren’t going to climb your Ivory Tower to release you.
They’re simply going to find a house with an open door and walk right in.
Have you ever dated someone who is always on the go?
Perhaps she can squeeze him in between her triathlon training and her business trip to London, but wait, I’m sorry, my cell phone’s breaking up… At the same time, the onus isn’t on you, Dan, to become a master seducer to jolt these women out of their orbit with some cocky/funny pickup artistry. Right and suddenly rearrange your life to accommodate him.
The onus is on these women to understand this fact: You don’t make time FOR a man. You rearrange your life in order to date enough men to meet Mr. I’m not saying that there’s nothing better you can do, Dan, to be a more effective flirt.
Not every woman is this way, of course, but almost ALL of my clients could meet your description: 36 to 44. I get the feeling that a guy has really got to fit into that space so that it is convenient to them, or that a guy has to excite them and fit all their checklist criteria before they are interested in dating. And you’ve just arrived at the primary problem that my clients have when it comes to forging successful long-term relationships; they don’t want anything to change.
They want the exact same life that they had previously, just with a man thrown in there for good measure. I have tremendous respect for them and know that without them, I don’t even have a business.