If at any time I or stbxh decides to remarry then it's not a problem, we'll file for divorce and we'll be divorced in less than a month.This is certainly not a typical arrangement but it works well for us and I've heard of other couples that have done the same thing.
If I had known where he TRULY was with his divorce, I would have told him to call me when the divorce is finalized...I agree with peggsu2, he needs to finish his divorce and work through the junk that comes with it. Most likely you would need to break off all contact in order to do this..let's be friends will just keep you on that roller coaster. But if he is recovering emotionally he may be ready to start again. It would be easy to say "wait until he OFFICIALLY gets divorced before you get involved", but, as we all know, relationships are never that clean, cut and dry.Good luck Sometimes dating too soon can cause a person to "skip" the grieving process. Like others said, there is a grieving stage, where a person has to get through the loss, the death of their marriage, so, while you think you're his end-all/be-all, when his pain cools down, he might lose interest in you and move on.My fear is what you wrote, he will get done with the divorce and after leaning on you through all this find out that he really wasn't that into you.The problem is that a dynamic or precedence has been set already, He is used to treating you a particular way (2nd best) old habits are hard to break.