For most women our first thought if our boyfriend hasn't called is to ring him up ourselves.This seems completely logical, particularly if he said he'd call and he hasn't.Your goal is not to feign permanent indifference and make him beg for you – lots of good guys won’t be up for begging.Your goal is to assess how serious he is about you by allowing him to make an effort on his own accord.But they are in for a really bad surprise when they stop chasing and find that their love interest isn’t so interested after all. Evan’s advice a while ago said it best- give him a chance to act, to do something, to show some interest, and take it from there.
Women unwittingly ruin their chances of a future with a man because they are too over eager to hear from him. Men pay close attention to when women call them and they'll make assumptions about you based on that.
It’s a cute piece, and I linked to it on Facebook (become my friend! Reliable reader Cheri wrote this on my Facebook page in response: Ok while I understand “The Rules” are a bunch of folly, the article flies in the face of your advice that tells women to sit back and see what he does; if we like it stay, if we don’t go. Great question, Cheri – and suitable fodder for my blog.
In short, The Rules is a good concept, taken too far.
That way, you never put yourself out there to “chase”: no “miss u” texts or “when are we getting together? You just allow him to reveal himself to you with his actions.
Sure, you can go out to a bar and smile at a cute guy to get him to approach you.