She got the bug and wanted to go out, he wanted to go home. It was just a symptom of the different places they were in their lives and what they wanted.She didn’t think she wanted it but it’s a natural progression in your 20s.I don’t want to stop just please those around me, so that they can welcome me to their gatherings, and not make me feel like an outcast. You’re strong enough to know what you want, you don’t care what other people think as much and at that point your social circle will include a wide variety of ages.
I was supporting myself so I had this sense of being forty when I was twenty. I was neither old enough to be making those decisions, wise enough or as mature as I thought.” I know women who married older men and are happy but we are generally talking in the 10-year range and with men who seem a bit more settled than your 39 year old.
So two things I see happening to other women to watch out for.
You will get out there and start earning money and start seeing the world is bigger and want to experience it …and he won’t.
But your 20’s are a life-stage of much growth, change and getting to know yourself. You do have so much to experience and as much as you’re more mature than your peers and you think you know who you are, you don’t, at least not well enough to commit to a man regardless of his age. Even 40-something women who married the love of their lives in their early 20s wish they had waited.
Even when you think you’re an old 20-something, you’re not.