I wouldn’t have crossed paths with so many amazing people.
Instead of seeing these two parts of my identity as negatives, I view them as qualities that make me unique.
To be honest, I feel more comfortable being gay in the deaf community.
By and large, deaf people are very accepting of my sexual orientation.
I took comfort, though, in the knowledge that many other people identified as part of one minority group or another, and that I wasn’t alone.
It wasn’t until high school that I truly began to feel like I’d been given a raw deal in life: During my freshman year, I developed my first crush and realized that I wasn’t just deaf but gay, as well. There are similarities between being deaf and being queer that compounded my sense of alienation.
Fortunately, my experiences in college and afterward allowed me to gain confidence in both of these aspects of my life.
Many of my friends now are deaf and gay, and I realize there are just as many advantages as disadvantages to this dual identity.
Sophie Grégoire Trudeau has sparked outrage for her International Women’s Day message which urged women to use the day to celebrate men who promote gender equality.The deaf community values—even requires—expressiveness in hand movements to communicate.In contrast, I’ve noticed that using your hands to communicate is looked down upon by some gay men, because its so strongly associated with femininity.“We’re the ‘rainbow sheep of the family.’ We have two reasons instead of just one to stick together.” But there are downsides, too—most noticeably how small the community is.“Gossip spreads more easily compared to how it would in the deaf or gay communities alone—so there is more pressure to protect your reputation,” says another friend, Noe Turcios.