Northeasterners are more likely to use their phones in bars, bathrooms, and subways; they text people they’re dating more frequently; and they’re more likely to answer a call or text that arrives in the middle of a date.
Northeasterners are also more likely to scroll through a significant other’s text messages and call history without permission than Westerners are.
magazine convened a panel of pickup artists and dating coaches to discuss the state of seduction.
“Technology has changed, but the difference between men and women and the dating philosophy does not change,” co-author Sherrie Schneider said.
(The study isn’t explicitly hetero-only, but most questions are framed in those terms.) Among the findings: About a third of single people think “it’s less intimidating” to ask someone out via text message.
(No gender difference.) Forty-six percent of singles get annoyed by a dating prospect who texts too frequently.
In a romantic landscape where we can no longer rely on gender stereotypes to dictate our behavior, every dater is going to have to step up and be a little braver, kinder, and more honest in order to get what he or she wants.
“It’s a product of the growing normalcy of using social media apps,” says Moira Weigel, author of “Labor of Love: The Invention of Online Dating” (Farrar, Straus & Giroux, 2016).
“Our real-life and online identities are more and more interwoven.” Because of this cultural shift, online dating sites now have unprecedented reach into our lives. Reams have been written about online dating, but as far as we know, no one has put the sites to the test.
Android users are a little more likely to view the who-texts-first issue as gender-neutral, and they’re also more comfortable with significant others looking through their phones.
The study also unearthed some regional differences in texting behavior: People in the Northeast tap their phones harder than people in the West do.