as women is difficult, because it can make us feel powerless and/or less-than-feminist.
So posts like this make folks uncomfortable, often leading to three kinds of reactionary (and unhelpful) comments. Even though we all have insecurities, self-confidence is not my major struggle.
I also have both short and long term goals for doing so. So please save the condescending lectures (and arm-chair therapy) for someone else.
It’s not popular to say (and I’m sure I’ll be e-stoned for saying it anyway), but if you’re overweight and serious about expanding your dating options, it may be worthwhile to shrink your waistline.
I’ve interviewed thousands of men in my career as a dating expert and journalist, and I’ve noticed that on every rundown of what it is that men are looking for in a woman, weight inevitably sneaks high on the list, usually in the form of “She works out” or “She stays fit” or “She is concerned about her weight and personal appearance” — i.e., she’s not fat.
The number will usually total up to no more than 2 or 3 mind you.
Those stories ring hollow, because they ultimately amount to a futile attempt to amass enough exceptions to disprove the rule.