The researchers said the 113 teenagers who they interviewed as part of the study rarely spoke of anal sex “in terms of mutual exploration of sexual pleasure” and that boys “wanted to copy what they saw in pornography.” It’s worrying to hear this climate of coercion seems to exist amongst teenagers today, but what about consenting adults?Well, if your partner wants to try anal sex and you don’t feel comfortable then be sure to say so.
That’s why being really aroused before any penetration is attempted is so important, along with feeling confident that your partner will stop if you ask them to.
This is because the anal sphincter is likely to clamp shut at the first sign of pain or anxiety.
The anal entrance is very sensitive and so starting with gentle touch or stroking there and all over the buttocks can really help set the scene before attempting penetration.
Also, definitely see a doctor if there’s any bleeding or discharge from the anus after sex (or indeed at any other time).
Lots of couples find anal sex really enjoyable, but like most sex experimentation the key is to find out what works for you.