Few life events can cause as much upheaval and pain as ending a relationship with someone you cared about.Whether you’re the breaker or the breakee, odds are you will feel a range of emotions for weeks or even months after a break-up. Some of us lived in denial even though we saw it coming for months (or years.) For others, it came out of the clear blue sky.When the post-break-up fog has cleared, it will stand as a personal artifact symbolizing your refusal to give into sadness and depression.At a certain point after breaking up, your emotional state transitions from misery to realization that you are now free to be a bit selfish.A lot of guys get wrapped up in the emotional fantasy of a grand romantic act, convinced that swinging through her window hanging from a chandelier will instantly show her the error of her ways and make her helpless to the power of your charms and fall for you once more. If this is the love of your life, and I mean the real love of your life, it will work out.
But for the rest of us, mutual friends are the equity built over a long-term relationship.
Maybe you want to use this time of reflection to hit the gym more or learn to be a better cook or learn to fix motorcycles.
Whatever you choose, pour some of that passion the strong emotions associated with the break-up have stirred up into a creation that you can be proud of.
Use this time to your advantage to better yourself.
Long-term relationships are very driven by routine, so being out of that routine can feel unfamiliar or uncomfortable.