But it’s always worked for me, we’ve always reverted back to friends if it’s broken down.’ I’m amazed that she’s managed to slip in and out of romantic/platonic statuses with guys, seamlessly. Dating someone who actually knows you, who’s not a stranger or a time-waster, but someone who to some degree already knows you and enjoys your company is just my preference.’ I can’t help but feel like at the end of our conversation that Jessy’s point rings truer than ever. Then they became something else- digital shopping aisles, devoid of life or emotion, they became hook-ups for people who were both lonely on a Sunday night and third-dimensions where we all behaved in ways we would never dream of behaving IRL amongst our friends.I’ve had mixed experiences on apps, and while I wouldn’t totally write them off, I don’t use them any more. They stopped being fun or useful for lots of my friends.Of course, we’re onions, we’re layered and we make people cry, and your friend-turned-partner will have more to them than you’ll have been privy to before, you suddenly find an extra layer of feeling has been added to your existing relationship.
I’d then breezily order an Uber while having a panic attack on the way home that would involve calling twelve people. In fact, it was so easy it totally knocked me for six.
If you aren’t careful, you stand to hurt both your relationship with your friend and your crush, but your feelings may be strong enough to warrant the risk.
Depending on the situation, you may find yourself faced with some significant heartache, but it’s important to remember that being the wrong person for your crush doesn’t mean you aren’t the right person for someone else.
Sorting Through Your Feelings Coping with Heartache Moving On Community Q&A Having a friend date your crush can be a difficult social situation to navigate.
With your feelings, as well as those of your friend and your crush on the line, it can be extremely difficult to be sure what the right course of action is to take.