The research findings can be summarized as followings: 1.Online daters tend to fill in the information gaps with positive qualities in a potential partner; on the other hand, everyone wants to make the self appear as attractive as possible to potential dates by exaggerating the self desirable traits. There are gender differences in both preference and messaging behavior on online dating sites.All categories are just the maps or substitutes of social reality, not the reality itself.When people use categories to predict an interaction (but not pay attention to the other's real communications, they will produce two outcomes: a), avoiding love from right individuals, and, b) approaching the wrong person(s).This kind of distorted cognitions can only be rectified through the regular and meaningful interactions, which help individuals find out that they are worthy others' love and appreciation.The problems with online dating It is clear that online dating has at least two problems.Women weigh income more than physical characteristics, and men sought physical attractiveness and offered status-related information more than women. The service users preferred similarity on a variety of (mainly demographic) categories (including child preferences, education, and physical features like height, age, race, religion, political views, and smoking).
To accomplish the above tasks, the partners need to engage in the meaningful interactions (face-to-face interactions, including both verbal and nonverbal communications), which allow one person to give to and receive from the other.Love is created and maintained by the process of meaningful communications (including validating accurate perceptions and invalidating inaccurate perceptions of interpersonal reality). Additionally, love is highly individualistically based. Second, it does not help heal the emotional pains of some online daters." Please step into the 21st century of easy online communication and personal mobility. I would suggest introspection and psychotherapy, not any kind of dating.Every online match I've ever seen moved at a deliberate pace from exchange of emails to IMs to phone to Skype to meeting face to face. Here's the study that needs to be done: Do couples who meet online through e.g.This type of artificial "contact" contradicts the process of meaningful interpersonal interactions (to be explained), which generates love and attraction.To explain the problem, I need to first elucidate the ingredients for love and the meaningful interactions.